Friendship Characteristics by POSH Child Magazine’s Teen Fashion Blogger, Lacey Evans.
“People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt & die.” Plato~
The People that we surround ourselves with will either pull us up or drag us down. Therefore, we must choose them carefully. It’s ok to give everyone a chance to be a friend. However, choosing who remains long-term is incredibly important. Unfortunately, not everyone will make the cut and that’s not a bad thing. Friends are often times considered to be a “part of the family”, so to speak. This makes the job even more important, you are not only picking who you involve yourself with but you are also picking for others that are connected to you as well. Always embrace those that will encourage you to become the best you that you can be. No man becomes great on his own. We all need friends in our lives whom we thrive around and that will influence us in a positive way.
Here are 5 ways that I’ve found help me to choose jam up friends…
- First and foremost, we have to like ourselves. We can’t possibly be a friend to someone else if we don’t even like being around ourselves. So love you and be comfortable with exactly who you are. After all, we are our own worst critics, so chances are if you love you, your friends will too.
- Have a pure heart… You see, if you are a good friend and truly love then you will get that in return. What you give is what you will receive. When you are sincere and are striving to be an amazing friend, with the right heart and honest intention you won’t even have to think on it much… “it’s like butta”!
- Red Flags!! Always look for those red flags… Since friends can make us or break us, we use guidelines to help pinpoint who pairs well and who doesn’t. For example, your friend is consistently talking about other friends when they are around you, chances are they are doing it to you too… Or not telling the truth. These are red flags. You may want to steer clear from this type behavioral pattern.
- Practice the balance between give and take… It is easy to fall into the trap of being one who always takes. We are all guilty, myself included. Be mindful, this gets old quickly. You have to be thoughtful and put your friends first. For example, buy them lunch or greet them with a cup of Starbucks one morning. Even a card, text, or hug will do the trick. It’s the simple things in life that we sometimes all together miss the beat on.
- Don’t get caught up in the popularity contest and think you have to surround yourself with the wrong crowd… Seek higher ground. Look for those that inspire you to make right choices and avoid the negative situations. If they are true friends, they will get you and respect you for what you believe in or stand for. You will exhibit the same qualities and embrace boundaries and standards that each set. There’s a unique respect that comes with a true friend and I encourage each of you to explore the dynamic, It’s pretty KOOL! Remember… Your Vibe Attracts your Tribe!!